Annelik ve Kariyer Kıskacında: İlk Kez Anne ile Durum Çalışması

Year 2024, Volume: 10 Issue: 20, 19 - 38, 30.06.2024

Aysun Doğutaş

https://doi.org/10.25306/skad.1418444

Abstract

Ebeveyn olmak, keyif ve mutluluk getiren en önemli yaşam geçişidir. Ancak ebeveynlerin iş ve aile yükümlülüklerini dengelemesi her zaman kolay değildir. Annelerin çocukları için hayatlarından vazgeçme olasılıkları babalara göre daha fazladır. İlk kez anne olanların ebeveynlik ile iş istekleri arasındaki çatışması olgusu bu çalışmanın odak noktasıydı. Böylece, ilk kez anne olacak bir kadının bebeklerine öncelik vermekle kendisi arasındaki gerilimi, değişen kariyer hedefleri ve yaşam tarzı incelendi. Bu çalışmada mükemmel bir anne olmanın sosyal ve psikolojik baskısını tartıştım. Araştırma konusunu ele almak için keşfedici vaka çalışması metodolojisi kullanıldı. İlk kez anne olan Aisa ise vakanın fenomeni oldu. 31 yaşında, ilk kez anne olan bir kadın. Şu anda 2 yaşında olan ikiz kızları var. Veri toplamak için üç yöntem kullanıldı; katılımcı gözlemleri, yarı yapılandırılmış görüşmeler ve alan notları. Tüm verilerin analizi sonucunda dört tema ortaya çıkmıştır. Bu temalar; kendinden vazgeçmek, suçluluk duymak, kariyer hedeflerini ertelemek ve anneliğini sorgulamak.

Keywords

annelik, kariyer, cinsiyet eşitsizliği, suçluluk, baskı

Between the Motherhood and Career Gripper: A Case Study of First-Time Mother

Abstract

Many women confront complex challenges when juggling motherhood with a profession, especially those who are starting their parenting journey for the first time. This case study explores Aisa's experiences as a first-time mother juggling her responsibilities as a caretaker with her desire to pursue a career in the business world. This study examines the complex dynamics, emotional challenges, and coping strategies used by a first-time mother as she tries to balance the demands of motherhood with her career goals through qualitative analysis of participant observations, semi-structured interviews, and field notes. Four themes have surfaced following the comprehensive data analysis. These themes include doubting her role as a mother, putting off her job goals, feeling guilty, and giving up on herself. The results highlight the complex interactions that exist between personal objectives, support networks, and society expectations, shedding light on the challenges that come with trying to strike a happy balance between motherhood and work. This study adds to a better knowledge of the difficulties faced by first-time mothers by providing insights into their lived experiences. It also helps develop strategies for empowering and supporting these women in both family and work settings.

Keywords

Motherhood, Career, Gender Inequality, Pressure, Guilt

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