Biz Babadan Böyle Gördük-Evlat Sorumluluğu

Year 2019, Volume: 3 Issue: 5, 13 - 22, 30.06.2019

Emine Er , Yener Özen

https://doi.org/10.31461/ybpd.523082

Abstract

Yetişkin
bireyin ebeveyninin kontrolünden tamamen çıkamaması patolojik bağımlılığın
göstergesi olarak düşünülmemelidir. Sağlıklı yetişkin bireyin, ebeveyninin
otoritesinden tam olarak sıyrılamamasından kasıt yetişkin bireyin şu anda özerk
ve kendisi için önemli kararlar alabiliyor olmasında ebeveyninin kendisine
yardımcı olduğunun farkında olmasıdır. Evlat, ebeveyninin kendisi için
yaptıklarını ve kendisinin şu anda olduğu kişi olmasına katkı sağladığını kabul
ettiği zaman ebeveynine karşı minnettarlık duygusu da beslemektedir. Bu da
evladın ebeveynine karşı sevgi ve minnettarlık duygusunu birlikte hissetmesine
sebep olmaktadır. Evlat sorumluluğu ebeveyn ve evlat bakış açış açısıyla
incelenebilmektedir. Bu kavram evladın ebeveynine yönelik sorumluluğunu temsil
etmekle birlikte ebeveynin evladından beklentisini de içermektedir. Evlat
sorumluluğunu açıklayan birçok anlayış bulunmaktadır. Bu çalışmada evlat
sorumluluğu kavramı detaylı şekilde incelenerek literatüre katkıda
bulunulmuştur.  

Keywords

Sorumluk, Evlat sorumluluğu, Ana-Baba Rolü, Çocuk yetiştirme

We See This By The Father-Filial Responsibility

Abstract

The inability of the adult person to be completely out
of the parent's control should not be considered as an indicator of
pathological dependence. The fact that a healthy adult individual is not able
to fully comprehend his or her parent's authority is that he is aware that the
adult individual is now autonomous and can help him take important decisions.
The children also expresses gratitude towards his parents when he acknowledges
that his parents have done for him and helped him to be who he is. This causes
the children to feel a sense of love and gratitude towards his parents. Filial
responsibility is examined with the perspective of parent and child. This
concept represents that responsibility of children towards parent. Also, it
includes that expectation of parent from their children. There are a lot of
comprehension about filial responsibility. In this study, concept of filial
responsibility is examined particularly and contributed to the literature.

Keywords

Responsibility, Parental Responsibility, Parents Role, Child Raising

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