A Qualitative Study for University Students’ Marriage Expectation

Yıl 2020, Cilt: 21 Sayı: 1, 241 - 253, 30.04.2020

Fatma Selda Öz Soysal , Aslı Uz Baş , Ferda Aysan

https://doi.org/10.17679/inuefd.491512

Cited By: 5

Öz

The aim of this study is to examine the university students’ marriage expectation. The students were classified as idealistic, pessimistic and realistic. The sample of the study was formed according to convenient sampling method. The students were aged between 18 and 24 (x̄=20.4, SD=1.6), of which 191 (64.4%) were female and 101 (36.6%) were male, totaling to 292. The students were attending to three differnt departments, namely, English Teaching, Arts and Craft Teaching, and Physics Teaching at the Faculty of Education at Dokuz Eylul University. In the study, “Marriage Expecttation Scale (MES)” was adapted by Öz Soysal, Uz Baş and Aysan was applied to Turkish developed by Jones and Nelson. After the application, the scores of the participants were graded according to realistic, pessimistic and idealistic scores. A total of thirty people, ten of the participants in each group, were selected by lot. Later researchers conducted semi-structured interviews. The findings of the research show that individuals with idealistic, pessimistic and realistic expectations differ in their love relationship, conflict resolution, child care and housework, and family relationships. The factors affecting the expectations of all participants are similar. it is thought that it will be useful to take these variables with, origin family, belief and cognitive structure, attachment style, social learning, effect of the media and and pre-marriage psychoeducation and group psychological counseling studies.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Marriage expectation, university students, qualitative research

Üniversite Öğrencilerinin Evlilik Beklentisine Yönelik Nitel Bir Çalışma

Öz

Bu araştırmanın amacı, evlilik beklentilerine göre idealist, kötümser ve gerçekçi olarak sınıflandırılan üniversite öğrencilerinin evliliğe yönelik bakış açılarını derinlemesine incelemektir. Çalışma grubu, uygun örnekleme yöntemi ile seçilen, 2017-2018 eğitim öğretim yılında Dokuz Eylül Üniversitesi Eğitim Fakültesi, İngilizce Öğretmenliği, Resim-İş öğretmenliği, Matematik Öğretmenliği, Fizik öğretmenliği, Soysal Bilgiler Öğretmenliği bölümlerine devam eden yaşları 18 ile 24 arasında değişen(x̄=20.4, SD=1.6), 191’i kız (%64.4), 101’i (%36.6) erkek olmak üzere toplam 292 lisans öğrencisinden oluşmaktadır. Araştırmada öncelikle Jones ve Nelson tarafından geliştirilen, Türkçe’ye Öz Soysal, Uz Baş ve Aysan tarafından uyarlanan “Evlilik Beklentisi Ölçeği (EBÖ)” uygulanmıştır. Uygulama sonrasında katılımcıların ölçekten aldıkları puanlar gerçekçi, kötümser ve idealistik puan ortalamalarına göre sınıflandırılmıştır. Her grupta yer alan katılımcılardan on kişi olmak üzere toplam otuz kişi kura yolu ile seçilmiştir. Daha sonra araştırmacılar yarı yapılandırılmış görüşmeler yapılmıştır. Araştırma bulguları idealist, kötümser ve gerçekçi beklentiye sahip bireylerin evlilik ilişkisinde aşk duygusu, çatışma çözümü, çocuk bakımı ve ev işleri, aile ilişkileriyle ilgili beklentilerin birbirlerinden farklı olduğunu göstermektedir. Ayrıca araştırma bulguları tüm katılımcıların evlilik beklentilerinin oluşmasında köken ailelerinin etkili olduğu göstermektedir. Evlilik beklentisi ile yapılacak sonraki çalışmalarda, köken aile, ilişkilere yönelik inanç ve bilişsel yapı, bağlanma stilleri, sosyal öğrenme ve medyanın etkileri gibi değişkenlerle ilişkilerinin incelenmesi önerilebilir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Evlilik beklentisi, üniversite öğrencileri

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