Parental Alienation

Yıl 2023, Cilt: 3 Sayı: 1, 19 - 36, 30.06.2023

Şerife Dönmez , Raşit Avcı

Öz

Parental alienation (PA), which has recently attracted attention and started to be studied in the national literature, is a type of emotional abuse that has been going on for years but has not been noticed. Many adults have realized in retrospect that they have been alienated from one of their parents and this situation has brought very painful consequences. On the other hand, children have been forced to accept a parent as an enemy for years by being brought to a position where it is desired or forced to take sides in both divorce cases and conflict families. Children exposed to parental alienation may face many mental or psychological problems that they carry into adulthood or that emerge in adulthood. On the other hand, it is seen that alienated/rejected parents also face many mental problems. In order to prevent all these possible negative situations, it is important for mental health professionals and forensic experts to gain awareness on the subject and work in cooperation. Being sensitive to parental alienation, especially in high conflict marriages and custody cases in conflict divorces, and the decision makers’ sensitive approach is a preventive dimension for children who are alienated from their parents and alienated parents. In this context, it is aimed to contribute to the increase of awareness about parental alienation with this study. For this reason, it is aimed to reveal the researches, developments and still debated points in a historical sequence on parental alienation within the framework of the international literature and to identify the needed areas of study.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Parental Alienation, Rejected Parent, Preferred Parent, Alienated Child

Ebeveyn Yabancılaşması

Öz

Ulusal alanyazında son zamanlarda ilgi gören ve üzerine çalışılmaya başlanan bir konu olan ebeveyn yabancılaşması (EY), yıllardır süregelen ancak fark edilmemiş bir duygusal istismar türüdür. Pek çok yetişkin, bir ebeveynine karşı yabancılaştırıldığını geçmişe dönüp baktığında fark etmiş ve bu durum acı verici sonuçlar getirmiştir. Öte yandan çocuklar gerek boşanma davalarında gerekse çatışmalı ailelerde taraf tutulması istenen ya da zorlanan bir konuma getirilerek yıllar boyunca bir ebeveynini düşman kabul etmek zorunda bırakılmıştır. Ebeveyn yabancılaşmasına maruz kalan çocuklar yetişkinlik dönemine taşıdığı ya da yetişkinlikte ortaya çıkan birçok ruhsal veya fizyolojik sorunla karşı karşıya kalabilmektedir. Öte yandan yabancılaştırılan/reddedilen ebeveynlerin de pek çok ruhsal sorunla karşılaştığı görülmektedir. Tüm bu olası olumsuz durumların önüne geçilmesi için ruh sağlığı uzmanları ve adli uzmanların konuya ilişkin farkındalık kazanmaları ve iş birliği içinde çalışmaları önem arz etmektedir. Özellikle yüksek çatışmalı evliliklerde ve çatışmalı boşanmalardaki velayet davalarında ebeveyn yabancılaşmasına karşı duyarlı olmak ve karar vericilerin bu hassasiyetle yaklaşmaları, ebeveynine yabancılaştırılan çocuklar ve yabancılaştırılan ebeveyn açısından önleyici bir boyut niteliğindedir. Bu kapsamda bu çalışma ile ebeveyn yabancılaşması konusunda farkındalığın artmasına katkı sağlamak amaçlanmaktadır. Bu nedenle, ebeveyn yabancılaşması konusunda tarihsel bir dizilim içerisinde ortaya konulan araştırmalar, oluşan gelişmeler ve halen üzerinde tartışılan noktaların uluslararası alanyazın çerçevesinde ortaya konulması ve ihtiyaç duyulan çalışma alanlarının belirlenebilmesi amaçlanmıştır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Ebeveyn Yabancılaşması, Reddedilen Ebeveyn, Tercih Edilen Ebeveyn, Yabancılaşan Çocuk

Kaynakça

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