EMOTIONAL BANKRUPTCY

Yıl 2017, Cilt: 1 Sayı: 1, 44 - 49, 08.10.2017

Cenk Aksoy

https://doi.org/10.30520/tjsosci.341216

Öz

We all know what a monetary bank account or a fuel tank in vehicles is. We invest in the accounts and build wealth, we fill the fuel tank. We also withdraw the money when necessary or consume fuel. “Emotional Bank Account” or “Emotional Tank” are simulations that describe the rate of trust within a relationship. According to these analogies, emotions can also be considered for the investing, filling or withdrawing, consumption. Someone can increase or decrease someone else's emotional account or tank. Just as a Balance Sheet Deterioration can cause a business bankruptcy, so deterioration of emotional balance leads to emotional bankruptcy. In this article, concept of "Emotional Bankruptcy" which developed from the principles of the "Emotional Bank Account" a concept used in the book titled "7 Habits of Effective People" written by Stephen R. Covey, a widespread international leadership specialist, and the principles of "emotional tank" a concept used in the book titled "The Five Languages" a best-selling book written by Gary Chapman, a well-known family and marriage counselor, will be examined.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Emotional Bankruptcy, Emotional Bank Account, Emotional Tank

DUYGUSAL İFLAS

Öz

Parasal bir banka hesabını ya da araçlardaki bir benzin deposunun ne olduğunu hepimiz biliriz. Hesaplara yatırım yapar ve birikim oluşturur, benzin depomuzu ise doldururuz. Gerektiği zaman da hesaptan çeker ya da benzinimizle yolculuk yaparız. Duygusal Banka Hesabı ya da Duygusal Depo bir ilişki içindeki güven oranını betimleyen benzetmelerdir. Bu benzetmelere göre duygular için de gelir, harcama ya da doldurma, boşaltma söz konusudur. Birileri bir başkasının duygusal hesabını ve deposunu arttırabilir ya da azaltabilir. Finansal yönetimde gelir ve gider dengesinin bozulması sonucu iflasa yola açan durumlar gibi duygusal anlamda dengenin bozulması da duygusal iflasa yol açabilir. Bu yazıda, yaygın bir uluslararası liderlik otoritesi uzmanı olan Stephen R. Covey’in 38 dile çevrilerek 25 milyonun üzerinde satış yapan “Etkili İnsanların 7 Alışkanlığı” isimli kitabında kullanılan bir kavram olan “Duygusal Banka Hesabı” ve dünyaca tanınan aile ve evlilik danışmanı olan Gary Chapman’ın “5 Sevgi Dili”  isimli çok satan eserinde yer verilen “Duygusal Depo” ilkelerinden yola çıkarak geliştirilen “Duygusal İflas” kavramı incelenecektir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Duygusal İflas, Duygusal Banka Hesabı, Duygusal Depo

Kaynakça

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